FIRST THOUGHT: Owning It
We often shy away from disclosing our mistakes. Please, don’t remind me of that jerk I dated, that job I left on shaky terms or the black plastic choker necklaces I wore back in the day. What are some things you wish you could keep tucked away?
Today, we’re talking about owning up to the choices we’ve made. If we were all honest about the silly, crazy or questionable things we’ve done, maybe we wouldn’t hold each other to such a flawless and unattainable standard.
WOMEN IN NUMBERS: 3.5 Percent
Ladies, do you donate to charity? I’ll bet you do since some of the most generous people I’ve known in my life are women. And according to the Charities Aid Foundation of America, I’m right: On average, women give 3.5 percent of their money to charity, while men give about 1.8 percent.
While that might not sound like much, it all adds up. By 2030, U.S. women will control an estimated $33.5 trillion, which means our annual charitable giving could reach $569.5 billion! I think it’s safe to say us ladies are pretty big-hearted.
WOMAN TO WATCH: Glennon Doyle Melton
Glennon Doyle Melton has been a lot of things in life. She’s a Sunday school teacher, award-winning blogger, speaker and even a New York Times best-selling author. Pretty picture perfect, right? But, like most of us, Glennon has hit some serious road bumps on her path to perfection. So, let’s go back to the beginning, when Glennon didn’t always have her act together.
Before turning her life around, Glennon suffered for decades with bulimia, alcoholism and drug addiction. And she admits she made some bad choices when it came to love too. On Mother’s Day in 2002, she found herself unwed, addicted and holding a positive pregnancy test. It was a life-changing moment for her. And although she knew the task was far from easy, she vowed to change the course of her life for the sake of her future child.
Thirteen years later, she’s addiction-free, married to her child’s father and now has two more children and a healthy, stable relationship. Glennon says everyone is insecure in some way because that’s just part of being human. One of the keys to feeling comfortable in that insecure space is to accept that we’re never going to be perfectly happy because life is hard. But she says we can all make the decision to be brave, to understand that compassion is more important than fear, fitting in or following the crowd.
As part of her mission to accept life’s harsh realities and embrace courage and kindness, Glennon started a blog called Momastery, an online community of people sharing their stories of hardship and overcoming adversity. As that site grew, members were drawn toward activism, which led Glennon to start a nonprofit called Together Rising. Its mission is to “get her rising” by giving women the help they need—whether that’s gas money, groceries or school supplies for needy families, or funding for a Girl Scouts project to make fleece blankets and hygiene kits for their local domestic-violence center.
It’s no surprise that after the remarkable success of Glennon’s first book, she’d be writing another one that’s just as powerful. The book, Love Warrior, will be released this year and gives a glimpse into the complications of infidelity, betrayal and redemption, and how to use crisis as a springboard to a truer identity and a better life.
Life is messy and hard, but by wielding love and willpower, Glennon has surfaced from rock bottom to tell her story and help other women welcome both the brutality and the beauty in life.
QUITE THE QUOTE
Looking for a little more joy in life? As fashion designer Diane von Furstenberg said:
“You carry the passport to your own happiness.”
That’s all for now. Be sure to share this so more women can have a voice! Thanks for getting ready with us.